It’s been a long time since I posted an article but this time, I wanted to put a BIG emphasis on self-love. Most of my posts are revolved around self-love, from sharing insights into eating disorders to body image and how we are conditioned to believe in society’s image of ‘perfection’. This time, I want to reveal about the necessity of embracing your personal story with self-love. Your life is not the same as the person who sat next to you on the bus, yesterday morning at 7 am. Your life is not the same as your elderly neighbour. You don’t know what they are going through until you see their world through their eyes.
Since the day I had begun my puberty years, acne has been a major part of life that I can’t completely control, but with the help of my acne medications. However, regardless if my acne were to be cleared, my face is still scarred by its remains. I have dark spots on my face I cannot remove. I have lingering memories of self-deprecation, standing in front of the mirror and telling my reflection names I wouldn’t tell others. Never. Useless piece of crap. Those hideous blemishes. Full of pimply crap. Crap – just crap.
Sadly, I continue to do so. Self-deprecation is something we all do, calling out every flaw we have and degrading our self-esteem to the point we feel worthless.
To some, acne scars are not a big deal. I was talking to a friend of mine, several months ago at the beginning of this year, on the topic of self-esteem issues. I said one of mine were the blemishes on my face. Yet, she said that there could be worse things to happen to someone, worse than the scars that still haunt me to this day. Yes, there could be worse things than acne scars, but not everyone has the same mindset when it comes to self-esteem. We all have different journeys and we all must respect that. Acne may not impact your life but it could be big aspect of another’s, a drop in their ability to love themselves because whenever they see their reflection, they don’t see their unique beauty, but only the spots that reside on their face.
I have a long road to go to love my acne and acne scars. I still pinpoint my flaws in the mirror, rather than accept them as who I am.
However, every flaw you come across should be recognised; not to degrade your ability to self-love but rather to help recognise your unique beauty, even though it may be insignificant to others. Because, the first step to self-love is to recognise that we shouldn’t generalise our identities to be the same as everyone else. We all have little sparks of light inside that makes us who we are.
There are people who share the same concerns as you do and that is okay as well. When you find someone who understands what you have been going through, you can then know that you’re not alone. We are all in this road to self-love. You have a say about your body. You have the right to feel confident in your own skin. Don’t let your imperfections overshadow your ability to love yourself.
There will be moments you hate your flaws but once we have the courage to embrace them, we shouldn’t be feeling worthless. We shouldn’t measure our worth based on these flaws. Everyone has moments of worthlessness and no singular journey is the same.
Next time someone tells you that there could be worse things than having this or that personal struggle(s), tell them this: if you have a personal struggle, wouldn’t you want the right to recognise the importance of your journey? – because your journey is just as important and worthwhile to share as that person you sat with on that bus.